Having 3 good friends is better than having 30!

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             Friends are the medicine for a wounded heart and vitamins for a hopeful soul , not someone to give you a wound ...


During these days of lockdown due to the outbreak of COVID-19 , we all are locked up in our houses .
Nothing much to do right.. just a rough schedule of waking up , attending online classes , playing ludo , pubg , Cod , sometimes cooking up something etc .... Right?
At the starting of this lockdown, we all were getting along with it very well that yayy !! Holidays .... But we are getting disappointed a little because it is getting extended more and more and we are missing our friends more and more , esp. we college going students . Me and my best friend is like , how are we going to survive without meeting for more than a month . Yeah , like seriously , we all are missing them badly right .. though I don't have many friends but as few as I have , I am missing them . We always craved for holidays but not like these where we can't go anywhere ..
So , after a long introduction ( it was long maybe because I am writing after a long time ) have you ever thought that your friends list has faded a bit ? That, back then when you were a little more young you had more friends . I do because my friendship group has taken quite a turn . Those who have few friends like me might agree with me . I think all of us have gone through the time where we had the worst break up with our most beloved friend or maybe with passing time it just faded and never talked since then.  

It happens. Friendships dwindle away, even those that you swore never would. Life tends to shift and move forward as chapters are written and closed. It isn’t abnormal to lose friendships along the way. Sometimes you’ll find them again and sometimes you won’t but whatever road your friendships take, learning to have peace with it will lift a weight off your shoulders. There was a point in life where I questioned if changing friendships was a direct reflection of myself or if it was just the outcome of our surroundings.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering the same thing, you aren’t alone.
If you’ve noticed your friendship group shrinking with each passing year, you aren’t alone. 

So, why? Why do friendships change and shrink as we grow older? 

Different stages in life

As we twist and turn our way through the milestones of our life, it’s easy to find ourselves in a different stage of life than our friends. As we grow, individually, dynamics will shift and it’s inevitable that friendships will shift. The things that were once very important to you, may not hold the same role in your current life which can cause a change in friendships. We are not put on this earth to go through the exact same life experience at the exact same time. As in college students our twenties are dedicated to growing in as an induvial and changing into the person who we want to become. As we begin to discover who we are, we will also discover who is meant to be in our life. 

quality over quantity

I can clearly hear my mom’s voice in my head saying: “Prabh, one day, you’ll recognize the importance of quality over quantity, especially in friendships.“ Not to my surprise, she was right … again. There is immense value in taking a step back to look at our friendships and recognize who serves and who doesn’t. Who is always there for you and who is only there for their benefit. Yeah , I know we are always taught to be there for the person regardless of the fact that what we are getting from him or not , but that doesn't mean that we will give them full authority to use as much as they can . No , because again quality is the thing that matters and if we are not choosing our friends specifically then we will just loose our sanity and nothing else .

prioritizing time 

I don’t believe in using time as an excuse but I do believe in prioritizing it. As life goes on and priorities shift, so will your time. With focus on career, family and personal relationships, certain friendships get the short end of the stick. If I am being frank, I mean really really frank, then you get to a point where you selectively choose who you are willing to spend your few moments of free time with. It may sound harsh but it’s the reality of the matter. For the sake of not stretching out too much for everyone and by making time for those that truly matter will help you keep your sanity and give your all to those who deserve it the most.

These days are the most valuable days and we should use them wisely because we don't know when will we get them again and I hope we never get holidays like these .. so , stay home and stay safe .

Xx- Prabhleen Kaur